Love, Listen and Learn, Steps to Awaken Your Inner Force

Evanalife on Relationships ~ Live Victoriously

Live Victoriously

~ By Eva A, Lang

 

Every day,

be the best person you can be –

to yourself and to others.

Ask yourself: “Am I creating joy?”

 

Find ways to put others first,

make their day brighter

and treat them as if it was the last day

you see them.

 

Every difficult situation in life

carries potential value –

believe this,

then begin looking for it.

 

The more you get lost

in something bigger than yourself,

the more energy you will create,

feel and share.

 

Keep shining brightly,

🌸 Evana.

 

 

…Relationships

 

All relationships carry influence on our relationships with those closest to us. ~ E. Lang

Whoa…did I just use the “R” word?

This time, peeps, it’s about other types of relationships as you might expect. In this post, I will touch on many of our “other” relationships that have a connection with our more/most intimate relationships such as our significant other, family and friends.

Heather Moody, our Environmental Science teacher at Siena Heights University, told us students once that with every choice we make in life, we can experience unexpected connections and sometimes even unintended consequences. Even though she was referring to the environment and our practices in accountability towards it, this can easily translate to our everyday lives.

In this post, I will touch on our relationships to things, our bodies, change and our minds.

…Relationships to things

Every morning upon waking, we share a relationship with our alarm clocks. We set them, depend on them, maintain them and sometimes threaten them. Some of us even blame and abuse them. Our relationship with time management can be quite challenging, especially for those that are extremely creative. Distraction is wonderfully welcome to our souls yet disrupting to our schedules.

Of course there are different types of distractions, those in which family or friends ask for help and those in which our soul is screaming for attention. Other things in our lives are our phones, food, our clothes and our cars to name a few. Think about how you relate to all of these things throughout your every day and practice awareness on your thoughts. Weed out the negativity, frustration and disappointment and seek instead thankfulness and gratitude.

Think of bad thoughts as tiny ships passing by in a river. Allow the ships to pass that are not helpful in nourishing your soul. ~ E.Lang

…Relationships to our bodies

After several decades of carrying our bodies around, eventually our bodies respond to how we relate to it and with A.G.E. aka age, our bodies change as they begin to have different needs.

What? Wait – all the while we’re taking care of our kids, our bills, our appointments, etc. now our bodies are beginning to communicate more to us, so does that mean that we’ve been denying that it’s telling us things all along? Yes. We’ve been ignoring, dealing with and pushing our bodies’ cries under a rug (at least some of us), so don’t ignore what your body is telling you, because believe me, it’s not recommended to wait for it to SCREAM.

Practice good habits…

Eat Well:

be aware of what you eat, our modern diet has changed drastically and more and  more people suffer from celiac disease, allergies and food sensitivities. As you put food into your mouth notice the texture and taste of the food, eat slowly and controlled. Make sure to consume natural foods and allow yourself ample time to eat. Be grateful for food!

Our body is like a garden, only put good foods in it to nourish and cultivate good bacteria, practice to be mindful of what you think, eat and do, and do it all with love and gratefulness. ~ E. Lang

Relationships to Change

and practicing Mindfulness

Changes are always certain as long as life exists

All things take place by change from how they are to make new and everything that exists is the seed of which will be. Pain is not evil, it is human and necessary. Enjoy life by joining one good thing to another and try not to leave even the smallest intervals between.

Change is clearly one of the most challenging obstacles in our  lives. Each and every time a change happens, all things move. With changes in life we are thrown off our tracks and must relearn, regroup, reflect and regather ourselves. As long as ones perspective stays positive and faithful that there will indeed be value in terms of learning and progress, lessons will be learned and wisdom will be gained. During the process, we try to fight without reason, until we learn. When we open ourselves up to learn a new life lesson, it can be quite amazing, almost magical because we grow stronger, start fresh and try harder to be a better version of ourselves.

 

Life is a garden, practice planting good seeds through investing in good thoughts. Pull your weeds regularly. ~ E. Lang

 

Healing from Change

As I find, the most important things in life are the simplest: Faith in God, spending quality time with family and friends, self-care, healthy rituals and regular routines that encourage our best self to thrive. When we finish a chapter, we must begin again. In order to begin again, we need to evaluate our current situation, adjust and get back to the basics: when you are stressed: Be grateful for God, family and healthy habits!

Breathe Well:

be aware of your breaths as your chest rises and falls. Take deep breaths and hold it for a count of ten, then slowly and controlled, let it go out again. Be grateful for the air we breathe!

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Mindfulness

The age of Mindfulness didn’t just get here by surprise, nor did it pop out of a cracker jack box, we’ve been going against nature in our way of life in a gradual but steady and exponential way. Other cultures have been practicing mindfulness for centuries. The closer we are to nature, the closer we are to our true selves. All the while we are trying to keep up, keep going and improve our lives, the improvement starts with us and us alone and always needs to come from within our core. Faith, hope and love carry a deep connection for this to happen and are necessary. Peace happens when we are one.

A separation from nature is a separation from ourselves. ~ E. Lang

Be grateful for Life and celebrate your Blessings!

🙌 Live Well,

Evana.

 

 

 

 

Love, Listen and Learn, New Perspective

Up your Good Vibes – How do you resonate with others?

 

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Our bodies are an intricately complex system built for the essential task of generating and dispersing energy.

~ Tru Niagen, a health and bioscience brand specializing in cellular health and NAD+ research.

…When you think of life as a life form, living beings are merely bundles of energies both positive and negative. A considerably peaceful and positive person has an aura of good vibes in their presence. They know themselves well. They are at peace with who they are, strong in their faith in something bigger than themselves and want to be of service and joy to others. Do you remember the JC Penney commercial “don’t just get there, arrive”? One can truly learn from this. I have learned that it is of utmost importance to live intentionally and to be aware of one’s thoughts, words and actions. How we resonate with others affects absolutely everyone.

Here are some helpful tips to “up your good vibes“:

  • Clear your mind of all distractions by finding a quiet, peaceful and uncluttered space (a room, a greenhouse, a cabin, a treehouse, etc)
  • Open your heart and think what it might be like to “live in anothers’ shoes”
  • Evaluate your thoughts, beliefs and actions in all of your current relationships
  • Always, always try to see the good in every situation
  • Learn from mistakes: these are great ways to learn, after all, after the first “miss-take,” there’s always room for a “second-take,” by getting up, picking up the pieces and trying again in a different way with an enlightened and adjusted perspective
  • Develop good habits (actively listening, taking the others opinion in consideration, valuing each others time, ideas and suggestions, etc.)
  • Give up and eliminate bad habits 
  • Never forget to be grateful for all people and blessings in your life, don’t take anything for granted, instead practice gratefulness and appreciation regularly

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What Resonates through Us?

What’s within us, is projected out

All people carry thoughts and beliefs in us. Do we evaluate these thoughts before we let them take over and just let it be? We all have a choice to hold up those ships that carry “access baggage,” in other words, we can stop negativity before it takes root. Once we become more aware of our thoughts (it becomes easier when practiced regularly), we are then able to evaluate and re-evaluate them, analyze which of them are “bad,” and let them just “sail by” on a stream away from us.

In our Western world, society has become more and more a culture of sameness, who is even still paying attention to all the “likes?,” or wait – it’s whoever is famous that “liked” something gets many more likes until someone realizes that – hold on, they did something wrong now, so what now?

Be aware of your thoughts, let them be your own thoughts because these are the same thoughts that turn into beliefs and develop into actions. We all know what’s right and wrong because it’s engrained into our very being.

How do you resonate with others?

Resonance begins with tone, your clear and positive tone of voice is an important factor in successful communication. If you slur or speak very low, your voice could be drowned out by all the other white noise. Part of our communication is compiled of speaking and listening and the listening becomes more and more difficult when there are so many distractions around us. However, when active listening is practiced, a harmonious relationship can grow.

Researchers have discovered that to have a genuine connection, active listening is one of the most crucial- and transformative skills in building deep and lasting relationships. In a world where speaking has dominated our daily attention through videos and media, active listening has become more challenging.

Our words are much more important than we think. Negative and positive words are truly felt by those that receive them as they usually produce a corresponding reaction and reply from the other person. Once someone explained bad and good words through the metaphor of an apple and a diaper. So, why wouldn’t we all want to “talk apple?”

Some words carry meaning from a persons childhood or an experience they had in their life. The other person you’re talking to could have positive or negative experiences associated with certain words that you choose to speak.

As we all associate positive and negative to our words, all words can be seen as both as well. For example, a diaper is actually also a good thing because the invention of a diaper itself sure helped many Moms in the world!

Last on the list, are our non-verbal ques that resonate. People associate some non-verbal language as ques or signs. One could feel happy and accepted, or threatened and rejected and some show this without words. In communication, we often show how we feel by our expressions of joy or despair, sadness or gladness. “Peace is in a smile.”

Some people can just “capture the room,” and these are the kind of people that resonate well with others. You can spot them from a crowd, notice them across the room and one can almost sense their being in the room. They carry a strong presence.

…Back to the bundles of energy…

 Here’s insight from Oprah:

“Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space.
I realized that for every relationship, not only do I have to be accountable for the energy I bring, but I also have to take responsibility for the energy that I allow from others. I understand that strengthening the bond in any situation is impossible if you’re not surrounded by energy that lifts you up.

————————————————————————–Be intentional with the energy that you create for yourself and others, have patience and compassion with others and keep your space free of negative energy.

🙌🌺💖

Blessings,

Evana.

Compassion, Love, Listen and Learn, New Perspective

Find Beauty in Stillness

Been a foreigner, been a friend,

walked far, lived in a car – been transient.

I was young, fearless and kind,

thankfully not blind

to be open to the world’s love and crime –

the dangers, the lies,

the Beauty and the Devine.

By foot or by wheels, to each their own,

whichever way appealed to me at the time.

Be careful who you show a smile –

disguised under a façade you may find

not a go(o)d kind.

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Wonderful, magical times

are found in those who shine,

once you learn to tell them apart,

eventually you get smart

and if you continue to let life’s trials all be lessons,

you too will rise to become wise –

“be still and listen, be slow to answer,

slow to anger and quick to forgive.”

~ E. Lang

Keep on a disguise

so you can be shielded

from the hidden trickeries

that become ties –

ties that bind and ties that keep –

precious secrets and

forgotten lies.

Don’t believe anything

but the truth that’s inside,

not my story, not yours –

the only one needs not defending nor defining

and takes no sides.

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Beautiful and still is the language of God,

for only in silence can you hear your hearts’ beat.

Cherish your blessings, love with all your heart

and know that true strength lays in gentleness,

not deceit.

Breathe Love, live Love,

and practice Love –

every day!

🙌 Blessings and keep shining brightly,

🌺Evana.

Compassion, Love, Listen and Learn, New Perspective

Mother Earth Day Cry

WE ARE ONE

~ by E. Lang

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Mother Earth needs us:

connect the dots

and get up and trust!

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Our Mother Earth needs us,

why don’t you think that’s just –

we’re all here together

in each and every weather.

We’re not made to rust

nor turn to leather –

Our Earth needs us,

in God we Trust.

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Don’t care about black or white,

blue or red –

rather think about life

than death.

Let’s put our differences to rest –

that’s our Earth at its best!

Get Up! Stand Up! Speak Up!

for You, for Me, for ALL.

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We don’t have to listen to the chatter

as the world continues to fabricate the matter –

it’s your choice to either listen

or follow in the wallow

of yet another swallowed.

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What truly makes change

are the people

who help rearrange

the furniture in the house.

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Stir it Up, Shake it Up,

gently Disrupt.

Fight for our Change –

Fill Your Cup

and Buckle Up!

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The Angels agree,

the planets align,

what is new? what is new?

Something quite divine!

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This Earth is All Yours And All Mine,

Let’s treat it like our Mother

and shine!

🙌

If we, we, the people

could change, change the world.

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We’re just some humans passing through –

we all make mistakes like all of you.

Life is brief and time’s a thief,

as dots we come,

as dust we leave,

together –

We Are One.

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In everything you do

think of God and your Mother Earth too!

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Namaste,

Evana.

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Arts, Love, Listen and Learn, Music

Hanging out Together – Welcome to my Hangout

A Reflection on Connection

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Playing with words connecting on lines,

thinking deeply and finding rhymes –

pondering traditions of hanging clothes.

Sometimes we underestimate the pros

of spending time outdoors

as our spirit is lifted and grows,

it’s always a good time to be exposed.

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Why do I love words so?
Because they play a melody;
words can be happy,
joyful and magic
when you chose them right,
they can dance like a
mad-in-love couple,
or jump and skip and make it hip.
The sounds, the rhythms,
the awesome vibes,
they help us feel alive.

When I think of the word “line”, I think of ways in which we are all connected. Our bodies are connected by veins that carry blood and oxygen throughout. A phone line, an electrical line, a gas line and of course – the World Wide Web connects people through a web of lines.

Traditionally, people used to hang clothes outside on a clothesline and it was common practice. How many of you have seen your parents or grandparents hanging up clothes on a clothesline? Hanging clothes on the line can be used as a form of reflection of the day, breathing fresh air, getting exercise and saving our resources by not using a clothes dryer. Connecting with nature in any way brings us closer to ourselves and who we are in the inside. This can be a welcome break from our busy lives.

My father enjoyed taking pictures of clotheslines and my mother loved hanging clothes on the line since she was a young girl. In fact, she has such fond memories of this that she remembers singing happily during the chore as the wind was blowing and the birds were chirping. A clothesline can be a very inspirational subject, as it creates interest in form, shape, color, environment and composition. Numerous artists used the clothesline in paintings including Charles Oldenburg, Renoir and Pietro Longhi.

A clothesline offers both intrinsic and extrinsic values for us: we are dependent on wearing clothes and people assess us by the clothes we are wearing. A clothesline can represent daily life as an ongoing process in which we all share responsibility.

Keep shining brightly,

Evana.

Arts, Love, Listen and Learn, Music

Hanging out Together – Welcome to my Hangout

A Reflection on Connection

—————————————————————————-

Playing with words connecting on lines,

thinking deeply and finding rhymes –

pondering traditions of hanging clothes.

Sometimes we underestimate the pros

of spending time outdoors

as our spirit is lifted and grows,

it’s always a good time to be exposed.

2839e8a9-f1cc-45da-b260-5efc88546acf

Why do I love words so?
Because they play a melody;
words can be happy,
joyful and magic
when you chose them right,
they can dance like a
mad-in-love couple,
or jump and skip and make it hip.
The sounds, the rhythms,
the awesome vibes,
they help us feel alive.

When I think of the word “line”, I think of ways in which we are all connected. Our bodies are connected by veins that carry blood and oxygen throughout. A phone line, an electrical line, a gas line and of course – the World Wide Web connects people through a web of lines.

Traditionally, people used to hang clothes outside on a clothesline and it was common practice. How many of you have seen your parents or grandparents hanging up clothes on a clothesline? Hanging clothes on the line can be used as a form of reflection of the day, breathing fresh air, getting exercise and saving our resources by not using a clothes dryer. Connecting with nature in any way brings us closer to ourselves and who we are in the inside. This can be a welcome break from our busy lives.

My father enjoyed taking pictures of clotheslines and my mother loved hanging clothes on the line since she was a young girl. In fact, she has such fond memories of this that she remembers singing happily during the chore as the wind was blowing and the birds were chirping. A clothesline can be a very inspirational subject, as it creates interest in form, shape, color, environment and composition. Numerous artists used the clothesline in paintings including Charles Oldenburg, Renoir and Pietro Longhi.

A clothesline offers both intrinsic and extrinsic values for us: we are dependent on wearing clothes and people assess us by the clothes we are wearing. A clothesline can represent daily life as an ongoing process in which we all share responsibility.

Keep shining brightly,

Evana.